I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way, to never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust
Not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake, a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust
Not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I watched you die
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I tried my hardest just to forget everything
Because of you
I don't know how to let anyone else in
Because of you
I'm ashamed of my life because it's empty
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of you
Because of you

In my quest to find the perfect mate, I often ended up dating or attracting people who were completely wrong for me. It was only when I realised a simple truth that my entire concept of relationships changed.

Practitioners of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) have a rule that states: The meaning of your communication is the response that you get.

That means the response you elicit from a person depends entirely on how you communicate your ideas to them. If you communicate in a way that gets you the response you desired, you were successful. If not, you need to learn what was missing in your communication and how to incorporate that the next time you try.

Notice how this rule places the onus of getting a response on YOU, not on the other person.

If you extrapolate this to relationships, you could say, “The kind of person you attract depends on the kind of person you are.” Our relationships, and the people we attract into our lives, are just a reflection of who we are, at that point in our lives.

We often talk about men (or women) being “emotionally unavailable” or unwilling to commit to a better relationship. But the kind of people we attract into our lives often tend to be people who mirror our personality or the issues we are dealing with, in some way.

If, deep down, you have a fear of commitment or of “losing your freedom”, then you’re going to attract a mate with the same issues. If you have no self-love or low self-esteem, you’ll end up attracting people with the same problems.

The reason why we see patterns in our lives, why we get into abusive or unfulfilling relationships, is because we’ve not dealt with the issues that were responsible for creating our own beliefs and personalities.

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. If you think positive thoughts, you’ll attract good things to you. If you respect people and do good by them, you’ll elicit the same response from them.

If you want to attract a person with all the qualities you want in a mate, then you must develop those qualities in yourself.

Want your mate to be more loving, giving and kind? Then become more loving, giving and kind.

Want your mate to be health-conscious? Start taking charge of your own health and fitness.

Want your mate to have a good sense of humour? Take the time and effort to develop your own sense of humour.

Want your mate to be financially secure? Get your own finances in order.

Want your mate to be emotionally available? Commit to sharing more of yourself first.



If you’ve been attracting the wrong kind of people into your life, take a good look at the person in the mirror. Get to know yourself better. You’ll find the answers are all inside you.

If you want a better relationship, you must become a better person. To attract the mate of your dreams, you must become the person you want to attract.

Tip #1
Make her feel like a woman
She chose you because of your masculine qualities. Qualities that make her feel more womanly. In your presence, she feels protected, provided for, and loved. Be masculine, but do it with sensuality and sensitivity. Be passionate, be strong, but be tender, as if she were a delicate flower. Open the car door for her, carry heavy things for her, pull out her chair. Be chivalrous, be gallant, be thoughtful, and win her heart...over and over again. Make her feel beautiful, make her feel desirable, make her feel special and important, and you'll make her feel like a woman as only a man can do.

Tip #2
Give her your time and attention
Does she complain that she never sees you, never has time to talk with you, or that you don't even know she's alive? Does she ask u to stop watching tv or reading newspaper? If so, it's a plea for your attention. She knows how focused you can be when you're working, but she feels left out. It's part of that security thing. What to do? Set aside time now and then to focus on her. Let her know she's important enough to devote yourself to her completely and she'll be less likely to feel ignored. The rewards will far outweigh the effort.

Tip #3
The way to get connect with her is Talking
Women talk for the sheer pleasure of talking. It's how they connect to people. Give her your full attention when she does talk to you, it becomes one of those romantic gestures. Got it? And you know how she's always trying to get you to be "more intimate"? If you listen to her more, she'll think you are being more intimate. All you have to do is look at her and pay attention; she'll think she's died and gone to heaven. It's that important to her, and that simple.

Tip #4
Tell her you care for her
For her to really feel your love, you need to tell her in words. Of course, she wants to hear you say "I love you," but anything you say to let her know you care and appreciate her will earn you major points: "You're wonderful, do you know that?" "I'm so lucky to have you." "Do you know how much I love you?" Big points on that one. Whenever you say these things, look into her eyes and mean it. Remember this, you cannot tell her you love her too often. This definitely wins you points on the romance chart. And, how often have you heard one of your buddies, who's gotten a divorce, say, "I never realized how much she did to make my life comfortable."

Tip #5
Tell her she's attractive
In today's culture, because of what they are taught as girls, and because of what they read in magazines and see on TV and in films, women get insecure about how they look and whether they're appealing. So, tell her regularly and let her know you mean it that she's beautiful. Compliment her on a new dress, the color she's wearing, or how her hair looks.

Tip #6
Honor her feelings
Her feelings are as important to her as your work (or maybe sports) is to you. That's why she likes to talk about them. She needs you to acknowledge what's going on for her when she's being emotional. Don't try to tell her that what she's feeling is "wrong" and don't try to fix the problem unless she asks you to. And never tell her "not to feel" her emotions. A sure-fire winner: ask her, "What are you feeling?" Then sit down and listen. She understands that you get kind of uncomfortable when she's being emotional, but if you just let her express herself and listen with your full attention, she'll think you're the most sensitive man on the earth.

Tip #7
Making up is hard to do
Does your fight with your partner often turned into a bigger event than it should have? If she's like most women, she tends to get going with her emotions and lets everything spill out. She doesn't mean a lot of what she says. Do your best to pay attention. The best way to stop her in her tracks is to admit that you were being stubborn, insensitive, inconsiderate, and hurtful. The more conciliatory you are, the more she'll be stopped in her tracks. If you make the first move to make up and offer no resistance, she can't keep fighting with you. Someone has to take charge so it doesn't escalate, and because she's lost in her emotions, it's going to have to be you. Be willing to look at her complaint and see where you may have been insensitive to her needs. If you both vow to never go to bed mad, you'll be a making love instead of war.

Tip #8
She likes to be pampered
Your woman naturally does for others. She appreciates the value of nurturing but all too often doesn't take the time to care for herself. You can score big time if once in a while you run a bubble bath for her, take her on a special trip or plan a romantic dinner, give her a gift certificate from her favorite shop or a trip to a day spa. Talk about getting a woman "in the mood." Wahoo! Sure, she appreciates that you change the oil in her car, but it doesn't really tell her you love her, even though that may be what you mean. To pamper her just remember, personal luxuries.

Tip #9
Give her respect
Throughout history, and in many cultures even today, women have been second-class citizens, looked down on as less able in every category. Only recently have we begun to consider women worthy of respect. To be the open, loving woman you want, she needs you to honor her as a person and appreciate her contributions as a capable person. Don't treat her as a child. Don't judge or criticize her. Don't ignore her or take her for granted. Don't be rude. Treat her like a lady at all times and she'll treat you with the respect that you expect and enjoy.

Tip #10
Make her feel secure
Your lady has a deep biological need to feel secure, to have a man provide for her and protect her. Financial security is obviously important, but even more than that, she needs to know you're there for her. That's one of the reasons she needs to hear you say "I love you." What really helps is to give her ongoing affection and the reassurance of physical contact. If you do this every day, several times a day, you'll give her the security she needs. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, hug her, touch her in gentle and reassuring ways. The more secure she feels, the happier she'll be. When she's happy, she's open to you.

When I look into your eyes
I can see a love restrained
But darlin' when I hold you
Don't you know I feel the same
'Cause nothin' lasts forever
And we both know hearts can change
And it's hard to hold a candle
In the cold November rain
We've been through this such a long long time
Just tryin' to kill the pain
But lovers always come and lovers always go
And no one's really sure who's lettin' go today
Walking away
And when you take the time to lay it on the line
I could rest my head
Just knowin' that you were mine
All mine
So if you want to love me
then darlin' don't refrain
Or I'll just end up walkin'
In the cold November rain
Do you need some time...on your own
Do you need some time...all alone
Everybody needs some time...on their own
Don't you know you need some time...all alone
I know it's hard to keep an open heart
When even friends seem out to harm you
But if you could heal a broken heart
Wouldn't time be out to charm you
Sometimes I need some time...on my own
Sometimes I need some time...all alone
Everybody needs some time...on their own
Don't you know you need some time...all alone
And when your fears subside
And shadows still remain
I know that you can love me
When there's no one left to blame
So never mind the darkness
We still can find a way
'Cause nothin' lasts forever
Even cold November rain
Don't ya think that you need somebody
Don't ya think that you need someone
Everybody needs somebody

We are only travelers here
For a short time
And then we will be gone
Why do we collect wealth
And material things when
They would be of no use
To us at our ultimate destination

The rich are getting richer
No prosperity for the rich ones
The poor are getting poorer
No patience in the poor ones

Men don’t care how they get things
By hook or by crook
Lawful or unlawful
Ignorance, adultery, sodomy, gambling
Drinking of wine are
Alarmingly on the rise
There’s no respect for the scholars except
For their good clothing

The government is entrusted
To the undeserving people
There is no shyness in women

Oh! The Muslim Ummah
At the end of time
Lo! The hour is surly coming
There is no doubt thereof
Yet most of mankind believes not
Allah Guideth unto Himself who He wills.